Still, ill-conceived attempts to engineer unison are not at the core of the conflict between the sexes. We men are so determined to prevail, to bitch, scream and squabble our way to a final victory over reality and its co-conspirator, irrational women, that we overlook a more nuanced interpretation of movements like #MeToo.
The competitive tension within perceived dichotomies—the idea, for example, that chaos can be conquered—is a make-believe perpetrated by men for the honorable purpose of giving organized progress a fighting chance. Alas, the practical benefits of this rationalist conceit have a use-by date. The bias eventually renders us too materialistic, too controlling, too exacting, too antagonistic.
Yes, in short, too masculine.
My latest article in the San Francisco Review of Books.